Hi I have literally just been told I have 2b CC. They want to give me a hysterectomy (possibly saving ovaries so I can continue to produce eggs) alongside chemoradiotherapy. I’m 33 and we were trying for a baby. Now I’m devastated that I will not be able to have my own child naturally.
I’m so scared right now. I’m putting on a brave face and telling everyone that I’m being positive - which I am to an extent. But the reality of not being able to be a ‘true’ mummy is really upsetting me.
My husband is being fantastic but all he had ever wanted is to be a daddy and I know this is absolutely devastating for him too.
To be honest I feel worse about being infertile than I do about having cancer if that makes sense.
They have mentioned surrogacy by IVF and both my sister & cousin have already very kindly offered to do this for us. But I just hate being in this situation.
I’m worried about so many things. The whole process over the next few months, the effect it will have on my marriage, sex life. Then there’s work - how long will I need to take off, how will my employer react with me being off for a long time. Financial implications - we don’t have any life insurance. Etc so many things going through my head and I don’t want to keep going over it with my husband/family because I don’t want them to dread talking to me.
I haven’t slept all night just been researching various things, treatments etc. I have asked for a second opinion on fertility and they are referring me to the Royal Marsden but my dr said that they are likely to say the same re: treatment.
Sorry for rambling… Has anyone been in similar situation? Any advice? Thank you in advance xx