Need to Vent:
Just wondering if anyone else has had the same frustrations with the healthcare system and doctors fitting patients into a box instead of putting in the necessary effort to get them help for their pain ?
Background: I had symptoms of unusual discharge, bleeding after sex, and pain during intercourse for a few years, but always had normal paps and was told it was BV whenever I’d get it checked out, even tho antibiotics never made the symptoms go away.
On September 10, 2023, I woke up in the middle of the night due to my hip having one of the most intense pains I’ve ever felt in my life. A friend brought me to the ER, and although my symptoms were left hip pain and abnormal vaginal bleeding, I was given a CT and diagnosed with a kidney stone … even tho there was no evidence of one on the CT. I was sent home and made an OBGYN appointment, but I couldn’t get in until Oct 20th. During that time I suffered thru it with ibuprofen and leftover painkillers I’d had (thank god).
On the day of my appointment, the doc was sick, and so I couldn’t be seen until Nov 20th. I couldn’t do it anymore tho, the pain was way too much, so I went to a different ER, where the doctor was condescending and didn’t believe that I’d been in pain and bleeding for 40 days. I did get a transvaginal ultrasound which read: There is a 4.0cm well-circumscribed lesion within the left adnexa with dependent low level echoes. This technically does not meet criteria for follow up… they explained it was just a cyst, they can be painful, and sent me home with two days worth of medication. I felt SO defeated.
I was lucky enough to get off the waitlist and grab an appointment for Nov 6th. The OBGYN also seemed skeptical of my symptoms and timeline - maybe bc I’m young and don’t like to show I’m in pain ? But then she did an exam and completely changed her attitude, got me in for a biopsy that week, and set up all necessary appointments.
I spent two months suffering greatly due to multiple doctor’s unwillingness to put in the extra effort to help someone in pain. They made me feel like a liar, like I was exaggerating how much it hurt, and as if I were stupid for not knowing it was a cyst/fibroids/no big deal.
I ended up being diagnosed with Stage 3C1 invasive squamous cell cc which metastasized to my bilateral lymph nodes and upper 1/3 vagina with perimetrial invasion. My cc was 7x4cm with a 3.6cm left lymph node tumor, which is where my pain had woken me up came from. I also had left sided hydronephrosis and crushing of my ureter, so I ended up needing a stent before my kidney failed.
My gynecologist said if anyone had bothered to examine me, they would’ve seen it immediately. I’m just not sure how multiple medical professionals missed Stage 3 cancer when it was basically thrown right in their face.
Honestly, things didn’t start going well after I was finally diagnosed. It’s been a long road trying to get the help I need from doctors here. There’s been so many issues that could’ve been avoided, so much unnecessary suffering, but I made it and I have adequate care now.
I just wanted to create this topic in case anyone else wanted to vent about this. I appreciate those who have helped and those who would help in these situations, but my specific doctors were not it and wondering how many others have had to go months without treatment due to this type of thing happening.