My wife has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer. I’ve tried several times to write something on here, but I don’t really know what to say. That’s the first time I’ve even been able to say the word. We don’t know how bad it is yet, but right from when she first went to the Doctor’s they were describing it as ‘sinister’ and warning her to expect an adverse result.
We’ve appointments for various scans next week, and I’m so scared of what they might tell us.
She’s being so brave, and I’m so, so proud of her, but to be honest she’s coping with it better than I am. She’s an incredibly strong person, but I worry that she’s maybe being strong for me.
After so many years of marriage most of our friends are joint friends, and my wife doesn’t want anyone to know. She has told her best friend, but when her friend asked me how I was coping I’m afraid that I might have seemed off hand as I didn’t want to break down in front of her.
I don’t feel that there’s anyone I can talk to – my wife has enough to cope with and I don’t want to burden her any more. I don’t feel she should have to support me, when she’s the one who needs support.
I feel like a fraud for feeling like I do, as it's not me that has the cancer. How can I stay strong and help my wife? Please give me some advice, I feel so desperate. Thank you.