I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. It is a very scary time. hugz
HPV is probably the most common of all STDs. Having said that, there is evidence emerging that it can be contracted through contact other than sexual contact, so it is not even strictly and STD. There are many strains of it and only a few of those strains are responsible for causing cervical abnormalities. Up to 80% or higher of sexually active people have HPV. For many people, there are no signs or symptoms whatsoever. It is hard to detect as it can only be tested for if it is in an active state, such as causing changes like yours. It can lay dormant in the body for many years, then become active, then go dormant again. Many people have it but their bodies clear themselves of it. Some people have ongoing issues.
I was really shocked when I tested positive because I hadn’t been sexually active for around 8 or 9 years, and hadn’t had unprotected sex for something like 20 years. I have no idea who I got it from and most likely the person that did give it to me had no idea he was carrying it. It’s a sneaky thing that can pop up when you least expect it. I couldn’t possibly say for sure, but if you’ve been with your partner for a while, you probably would have passed it on to him. It’s equally likely, though, that he gave it to you. Either one or both of you could have had it since your first sexual encounter and simply not known.
If you are going to have changes, borderline are probably the best type. This means they are only just starting to be abnormal. In many women with low grade abnormalities like that, they will resolve themselves with no intervention. I had an abnormal pap several years ago. I had to go back for another pap in 12 months instead of 2 years and it had cleared itself up. I had at least 2 normal 2 yearly paps before this last one which was high grade changes (it might have been 3 … I’m not real good with remembering things in chornological order). The idea of a colposcopy is scary, I know, but for me it was just like a pap smear. Some women have biopsies taken, but I didn’t.
I know it’s a scary time. Waiting and not knowing is the pits and it’s super stressful. Everything you’re feeling is perfectly natural and normal. Hang in there though. You will get through this more hugz