Hi, I’m probably older than you (I’m 57) and I’m 10 months post treatment.
ive not had the nerves to try out sex, although I do dilate with the third size with no problem.
i think with sex, you need to use plenty of lubrications, such as optilube.
iand that’s my problem, no spontaneous moments any more and I just don’t feel like my foof belongs to me any more.
my oncologist did say that the bigger ones, although they stretch you, they often don’t reach the cervix or far enough up, so she recommended I stop at number 3 or even number 2.
a rotating motion will stretch the foof, but bounce the dilator off your cervix too....gently
it helps with the breaking down of the scar tissue.
but as far as sex is concerned, I’m afraid lube is your new friend to make it more comfortable.
one day I will pluck up the courage again,and I have a loving and understanding husband, who I adore and adore even more so because there is no pressure and loads of kisses and cuddles.
good luck xxx