Sex and Intimacy

Hiya I'm new to this forum but have been struggling emotionally ever since my diagnosis in 2007. Since my radical hysterectomy I have not had sex with my husband. I know the problem is mental and not physical. Hubby has not mentioned it and struggled with my diagnosis at the time. Can anyone help please?

I'm sorry you are going through this for so long. May I ask, have you been able to use the dilators to keep yourself elastic (sorry for the choice of word)? If it is just a drive thing there is a herb called damiana that supposedly improves libido/sex drive in women, though I have not personally used it it might be worth looking into.