I'm not entirely sure if this is the right section to be posting this? Forums are all very new to me. I just wanted to get some advice and reassurance from people that are going through the same thing. My mum has just been diagnosed with cc and is taking it quite badly. I have not got much idea of how much is known, she is very reluctant to talk about it. I know she's had a smear and then a biopsy appointment, she might of had more and not told me, but we do not know what grade it is yet.
We are currently waiting for an oncology appointment and I firstly want to know how long this could take? We've been waiting for about 2 weeks now, last week we got a phone call to say one would arrive in the post but still no sign. Is this something we should chase up?
I also want to know what happens next? How long will it take for us to know the stage and what treatments are avaiable?
I also was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on how to make my mum feel better. I live about 3 hours away from home and she's rang me to tell me about it and basically told me that everything was fine, she was getting better and it was unlikely to be cancer, I went home last weekend and found out the truth and it completely devastated me because I completely convinced myself that everything was going to be alright. She's pretending to be dealing with it fine, but she's not. She had a few drinks on saturday night and it all came out, she's convinced herself it's terminal and my younger brother told me she even took an overdose last week. I tried to speak to her and reassure her saying we didn't know how far it was and that it might be okay and we could get through it and then she told me how she did not want any chemotherapy or radiation and told me basically to prepare myself for the worst. What makes this even harder is that she's not telling anyone about it. She hasn't told my other siblings, only me and her husband and her sister know. I took a few days off work and stayed at home, but hardly saw her as she has been staying at work late and then goes to bed very early. I really just want to be there for her and her to feel like she can talk to me but I don't know what I can do. I'm back in London again now but going back to Bristol tomorrow after work for the weekend. Has anyone got any advice or perspective that they can pass on to me. Thanks so much.