Anyone else feel like they will never get out of feeling rubbish with the menopause?
I’ve had a really rough week with low moods and severe fatigue. I’ve put on weight and cannot fit into my clothes. I’ve cried everyday this week and got snappy which isn’t me at all. Not fair on my partner or step child to have to put up with it either. I’ve just requested to up my antidepressants.
I am on Estrogen cream but the doctor won’t put me on any other HRT. I lead a fairly active lifestlye and a balanced diet but I cannot fit into my clothes. I feel 62 instead of 32. How can this go on? No one warns you about this at the time of diagnosis. You are left to carry on with things . Can any one esle relate? I feel so lonely, anxious and miss the old me
Aww I’m so sorry to hear this and feel so frustrated that your GP or gynae team are not supporting you on this. Unfortunately, you are going to have to push your GP and get him/her to change your prescription as clearly it’s not working. I feel your pain, I have experienced everything you are going through and it’s awful, you kind of lose your identity as the symptoms change the way you think, and turn you into some kind of crazy person. However, you need to remember your body is lacking in hormones which is why you are feeling like you are. HRT helps a lot! But also remember your body is changing, we can’t turn the clock but can embrace the future. Be kind to yourself xxx
I was lucky enough to have a natural menopause at the usual sort of age however because of my own difficulties with it (long story) I’ve come to feel very strongly about the fact that many GPs are poorly educated about the condition. A menopause that is due to the kind of treatment we’ve had must be particularly hard because unlike a natural menopause the change in hormones is very sudden so you haven’t had the opportunity to adapt more gradually.
I would suggest trying again with your GP but possibly a different one at the surgery; you could enquire if any of the GPs have a special interest in menopause. If you continue to have difficulties getting support another option, if affordable, is to consider seeing a menopause specialist privately. I’ve heard good things about Dr Louise Newson; you can find out more about her via her website: https://www.menopausedoctor.co.uk/
Hi sorry your feeling like this I know how u feel I had a complete abdominal hysterectomy on the 28th July and all I’ve done is cry and be moody and I’ve pushed everyone away and been laying in my bed depressed can’t have any hrt until my results come back didn’t realise how hard this is and how depressed it makes u feel xx
Sorry you’ve been feeling like that lovely, I totally hear ya with the 32 going on 62 thing!
I’ve really struggled to come to terms with all the menopausal stuff, its awful feeling like you’ve got no control over things.
Things I found helped were B6 (i drank a lot of those green teas with b6 in and I found that helped with mood and flushes), accupunture also helps, and star flower (If you can take it) really helped with my moods too.
If your wanting to explore HRT, Could you request a referral to a menopause specialist? I think a lot of GPs are reluctant or over cautious to prescribe HRT with CC. It’s taken me 4 years to get onto HRT and that was only after i askes for the specialist referral. There are some really informative pages on Insta and Facebook which are linked to Dr.Newson.
Hey all - it’s been a while, but I’m in the wild throes of menopause after treatment and while I’m on HRT - I’m far from stable. My mood swings and hot flashes make me feel like a chaos monster, and I’m supposed to be getting married in three weeks but keep freaking out on my poor partner for the dumbest stuff (last week he was breathing too loud in the car…and he should KNOW BETTER - like, I’m a crazy person).
Anyways - anyone here leveled out yet? How long did it take? Any coping strategies you can share?! I’m exhausted and tired of this rollercoaster and so damn sad that the ride wasn’t over when I finished treatment. I want off.
If your GP won’t put you on anything else ask ‘why?’ then write a letter to your GP, clinic manager, and Inc the local CCG and even the cqc.
Ask your gynecology consultant to prescribe and if this still doesn’t work or even at the same time ask for a referral to your local menopause clinic. If you are near London the menopause clinic is the cream.
I have a private menopause Dr if it helps. She will ask you do get bloods done on NHS. Email her with all your history, diagnosis and symptoms. She will then do an over the phone consultation and she will then write to your GP and request the blood work that needs to be done and also prescribe you the HRT you need. You will need to buy the first prescription (private) but she’s around £180 and the 3 month prescription is around £100 (well it was for me). This was the best money I’ve ever spent. She is also an NHS consultant . If you need contact details DM me.
I was told at my age (41) you need higher amounts of HRT as the GP/local NHS put me on a silly amount they would give a 50yr old. The younger you are the higher amounts as our bodies are use to higher amounts.
Hello Japear89,
I have been having a terrible time with the menopause and refuse to take Hrt due to previous cervical cancer issues.I know exactly where you are coming from.No sleep, waking up feeling like you have wet the bed.One minute hot and then shortley after your so cold you start to shiver.I felt sad, lonely, useless and most of all wished i wasnt here.I kept breaking down at work and locking myself in the toilet.Sometimes i just wouldn’t go to work as i couldnt stop crying.Eventually i found that i needed to be on my own.Away from people who just dont understand.They make jokes about it, such as…oh is it the menopause and then laugh.There were times i slept out in my car.I even brought a duvet to keep me warm.I thought it best to be on my own where people couldnt laugh or talk behind my back.
It was early one morning i was crying on my way to work.I suddenly thought, i cant do this.So i turned the car round and drove somewhere to be alone again.For the first time ever , i didnt ring work to say i wasn’t coming in.I stayed in my car for 12 hours.No drink, no food.Later that day my manager text me and said hey Jo are you okay as it says on the rota you are meant to be in.I messaged him back and said im sorry for not ringing in sick and told him ive been sitting and sleeping in my car for 12 hours.I said they are better off without me.To finally come to an end with this story, i got talking therapy on dealing with my anxiety heightened by the menopause and finally went on antidepressants .I got prescribed Sertraline which i say is a wonder pill.Admittingly it takes a few months to really settle in and ive had them raised to 200mg.But its amazing.Everything about it is amazing .You may still have the odd downer but not as bad as before.And now I love myself and love each day.No weight gain either.I walk for miles a few times a week and keep myself away from negativity.Hope this helps.Sorry that its been a long read.Here if you want to chat.Be lucky Jo
. Can any one esle relate? I feel so lonely, anxious and miss the old me 
