Cancer took my mental health wellbeing, some of my hearing, 4 stone in weight (wasn’t really upset by that one) full use of my arms and legs due to muscle loss, caused me to have 4 blood transfusions. it took my hair and it took my ability to have children. Please tell me it gets better? My treatment finished in January, I got the all clear on 21st April, I’m back at work part time, I’m coping with the menopause, I’m doing more each week including boxing classes but there’s something missing, it’s feels like I’m on a type of autopilot, I think back on the last 9 months and it’s as if it happened to someone else. Am I in total denial and how do I get fixed?
Hi Donnam16
It’s very early days; you’ve been through a helluva lot and it takes time to process everything. I think some of us get a sort of PTSD as a result of our experiences with diagnosis then treatment and then long term side effects.
I was fortunate in that I 'd already been through a natural menopuase before being diagnosed age 60y; I think the type of short sharp menopause that you’ve had to go through comes with extra challenges - maybe you need more support for your menopause possibly with a menopause specialist?
When my treatment finished I expected to pretty much back to my old ususal self and it told myself it was a question of mind over matter but I came to realise it’s more than that - it takes time and we need to be kind and patient with ourselves to adapt to our ‘new norm’.
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I feel exactly the same, I got the all clear just over a week ago and now worrying about my next scan in august, is this how life is going to be now worrying for 3 months at a time? 
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Hi. It does get better. I can’t tell you how long it will take but it does get better xx
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