Do you tell the person you’re dating about hpv?

I’m wondering if everyone discloses hpv or not to a person youre dating? And does it matter if test results now show negative hpv? It seems unclear if it can be passed on if it’s negative??

ive disclosed to two guys so far, and neither of them cared. I was worried about telling them a lot more than they bothered thinking about it. Just FYI - for those of you worried.

i feel like I’m obligated to tell, but my friend who has/had hpv doesn’t tell anyone. She didn’t have as serious a condition as me though (CIN 3 with cone biopsy). 

What do you do? 

 

I felt the same way.  I ended up with Advanced Metastatic Stg 3 ICC after having 2 Negative HPV Tests within a 2 year time frame.  I found out after a simple hysterectomy that I was HPV positive for 16.  I was shocked.  Men don’t get regularly tested.  You can absolutely give them hpv.    Someone gave me cancer.  If I knew who it was I could save some lives.  But I’ll never know.  I think it should be treated no differently than HIV as far as disclosing that to a partner.  But since most everyone will get a form of HPV in their lifetime, I wouldn’t worry about it.  You wouldn’t want them to blame you for an Hpv related cancer when it very well could have been anyone else in their past.  If you are dating a virgin, then that’s a different story.  But remember, condoms do not protect against Hpv.  Good luck.  Hope this helps. 

Thanks. Yeah, I’m wondering if it can be passed on if HPV is negative. Has anyone talked to their doctor about this? I didn’t get a chance to ask. 

Hi

I havent been tested for HPV because I dont think the NHS bothers if your smear shows CIN3.  A large proportion of the sexually active population has had HPV at some point.  My immune system (for some reason) hasn't fought off HPV and therefore has made me succeptible to cancer. No one "gave me cancer". I can't "give someone cancer" by having sex with them. 

xx

 

 

I recently found out I have HPV too, I'm not saying I wouldn't disclose to a new partner (I probably will), but I think it's unfair and a complete double standard that women should have to tell a potential partner. Yet men can spread it from woman to woman without knowing or ever being tested for it. I feel like women are shamed for having this, i am really depressed atm and crying every day because I feel I will never have a relationship again because of this. In some ways I wish I'd never gone for my smear as I'd prefer not to know have an incurable STI. I know logically it's a good idea to have a smear test but finding this out has totally destroyed my mental health and I can't see a future for myself anymore. I am single and haven't had sex or sexual contact for 3 years. I always used condoms and never realised they didn't prevent it. I'm seriously concerned that I will have this forever as I must have had it for a long time. I feel totally depressed.