Hi there, I'm 38 years old and in the United States. I did a stupid thing when I moved accross the country six years ago and didn't find a new doctor in my new city. I've had some spotting after sex beginning about a year ago but disregarded it because it seemed like my period started a couple days later, and another time I had just finished my period, and sometimes it was so scant I told myself that wasn't what it was. I skipped a few periods recently and it came back pretty heavy on July 11. Since then I'm having pretty serious irregular bleeding and spotting not related to sex. I've also had some lower back pain.
Anyway, I am freaking out about having cervical cancer. I know I need to make an appointment asap. Is there any other advice you folks can share with me? What should I say to the doctor? I haven't told any friends or my boyfriend because I'm so scared and also embarrassed that I treated my own health so poorly.