Cannot have children because of a hysterectomy


I had to have a hysterectomy a year and a half ago because of cervical cancer.  At the time I was 25 years old and my main concern was to get rid of the cancer and to be healthy but as time goes on I am starting to feel quite down about the fact that I cannot have children.  A few of my friends have recently got pregnant and given birth and it hits home to me that I am never going to be able to have that amazing experience.  I definitely would like to adopt but I worry that for some reason something may go wrong and I might end up not being able to adopt. I feel like I don't really have anybody to voice my concerns too as I feel like I should put a brave face on about it in front of my friends and family but I just wondered if anybody else had a similar story or could offer me any advice?xx

Hi :)

I can't really offer any advice however I am 23 and due to have a hysterectomy due to my cervical cancer. 

I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone and it is normal to think about the things you won't experience. I am trying to think of the positives and focus on the things I can do that those with children can't. 




I know exactly how you feel, i was 30 when I  had my hysterectomy an i didnt have children. All of my friends are having babies and i find it difficult to deal with, my husband and I have applied to adopt thou the whole process is very long and intrusive and quite scary at the moment, i am here if you need to talk xx

Hi ladies

I only joined the forums a few months ago. I am 40 and just had a radical hysterectomy to remove the cervical cancer.  I too have no children and myself and husband had been trying to start a family when I got my diagnosis.  Just wondered how you all were on your journey and whether anyone had started or is going through the adoption process and what to expect.  We have decided that it is road that we would like to consider once the dust has settled so any advice would be gratefully received.


Many thanks SLxx

Hi Sunflower lady.

My best friend is going through the adoption process currently. In fact I was supposed to be their main referee but social services decieded to let me recover from my surgery first and chose someone else. They initially went to an information evening, then have attended training sessions, been interviewed (and their family and friends) by social workers. I think they started the process late last year and are hopeful to be ready to adopt by the end of this year. One thing that I will mention is that the adoption people are very clear on leaving at least 6 months from any significant life event before starting the process. I know my friend would be more than happy to go into more detail for you so private message me your email if you want her to get in touch with you.



Hi Julia

Thanks for the advice.  Hubby and I have both agreed that it is far too soon to think about adoption at the moment so we have put it on the back burner for now. I think we will know when is the right time to look into the process and I may well contact you again then. Think the next priority is looking forward to a bit of sunshine in Spain in April. Thanks again SL xx