I'm so sorry you have had this response. This has not been our reality but our journey did require meeting the managers who make decisions face to face and re-educating people.
My husband and I were almost at the end of the adoption application when I received my diagnosis. This did make a difference but the lessons we learnt will hopefully be useful for you.
As part of the process (pre-diagnosis), it was important to demonstrate that we had come to terms with not having a biological child of our own and had grieved this loss. Adoption is different from having your own biological child but I would argue the experience for us has been the most exciting, exhausting and joyful journey we have had the privilege to embark upon.
My consultants were fantastic advocates for me. Their medical report ensured accurate information was provided to the medical assessors during our process. At panel, I was challenged again and I replied that 1 in 3 people will affected by cancer at some point in their life. I have already been affected by cancer, am still here and will be in the future! However, until the consultants agreed a positive prognosis, social services were not happy to continue. We didn’t use an adoption agency, instead we were approved through a council service. Again, I think this was useful.
Did we wait longer – yes. Did we have to fight – yes. Was it worth it – yes. I would not be here if it wasn’t for the dream of having a LO in my home. It was the thought of parenting a LO with my symptoms which made me go and talk to my GP and identified the tumour.
Our LO came home 11months after treatment. The process took us 18months. If you would like any further support, please feel free to PM.
Love and prayers x