Hello everyone my names James I'm 23 and am in a relationship with a beautifully sensitive woman.
Nearly 1 month ago we went and had her colposcopy where they look a sample of her cervix for testing after her smear test showed abnormal cells ( I know you all know this its just all new to me so I'm just trying to understand it all as I type ). Since the sample was taken we have carried on as normal as possible waiting for the results in the door although I know she has been very worried about what the results may be as I completely understand Must be a scary thing for her.
So 3 weeks later there it is the letter we've been waiting for and to make things that bit more stressful she's half way across the world on a cruise ship so everything has been difficult. I eventually got her mum to send a picture of the letter to her and the results were that she has to go back for treatment but the treatment wasn't specificed in the letter and also they'd booked it for this month however she's not due to get back until beginning of April so again another stressful factor. She asked me to call the hospital for her to try and find out all the info and rearrange the appointment and this took a good couple of hours spread through the day back and forth so again stressful. In the end I spoke to a lovely woman called Carole and she told me that the treatment she's going to have is LLETZ and that her CIN is 1/2. I got her to cancel the appointment and now it's an open slot for when she gets back, i got her to find out from the doctor if she was ok to wait another 3 months and although it's not common practice he said it wouldn't be a problem Considering the circumstance.
So why am I here? However strong and independent my girl is I know she gets very worried and stressed but above all scared about the whole thing. Worrying about her future, our future. I want to be the most supportive person for her right now yet the stress is putting pressure on our relationship as a whole and this is sad as I don't like what is happening, to her or to us.
Anybody who who has been through similar steps or circumstances id love to hear some on advice on a few of these topics:
future pregnancy, any pain experienced during/afterwards, affecting our sex life(that's not because I'm a man and that's all I think about, its important) and success rates. These are topics we as a couple are concerned about.
Any help/ general support would be overly appreciate! Seriously it means a huge deal to me to try and know as much as I can about it all so I can be there for her.
Thanks and thanks in advance for all the replies,