Welcome to the forum it's great that you've found this site, it's been a huge emotional and practical support for me as I've come through diagnosis and treatment in recent weeks. I had 1b1 cc and an abdominal RH and lymphadenectomy 2 weeks ago. So I'm a bit behind you in terms of where I am with recovery but hopefully we can help each other out and share our experiences xXx
I had the amazing news this week that I dont need further treatment as like you, I've been so lucky and fortunate that they got all the cancer out. In the whirlwind of dealing with my diagnosis at a time when I havent been able to see friends or family, I was so overwhelmed by emotion (as you can see by my choice of username) that I felt the only way to get through was to box the feelings up and put them to one side.
When I had my all-clear, I was stunned by all the different feelings that bubbled up. I was grateful, relieved, elated but also still shocked, afraid, sad, angry, and grieving my lost fertility. I dont have any further appointment for 4 months which feels like being thrown off the rollercoaster to get on with patching my broken body and life back together again.
I've read a lot of other peoples experiences on this forum and it seems this is totally normal. One of the kind ladies here posted a link to this incredible article which is a long read, but a very worthwhile one. It made me feel so understood, that at moments, brought me to tears. A good one to work through over a few days:
I also found this site helpful, and a shorter/quicker read, and there are more good links at the bottom of this article
As regards your questions, seeing as you are now 4wk post op and no longer on opioid pain relief and I presume are not on any other medication that can cause drowsiness, I cant see why you shouldnt enjoy alcohol in moderation like anybody else. And you have definitely earned it! You could always double check with your own GP as mine seem pretty quick with getting back to me on the phone nowadays as they arent seeing patients face to face.
Your question about sex is something I asked my surgeon about this week so I can tell you what he advised me - at 4wk post op, orgasm through external stimulation is ok, and at 6wk post op, all internal stimulation is ok including penetrative sex. He cautioned that with all the usual "be guided by your body and if in any discomfort then stop and try again a few days later".
I have a physically demanding job that involves 9hr of walking/standing with some manual handling and very little time seated. I've been signed off for minimum 8wk, could be up to 12wk. When I feel ready I can have a phased return to work, building up towards full time hours over a period of 6 weeks. At the moment I am feeling quite eager to get on with my old "normal" life again so I am working on 3000 steps a day currently and look to gradually add an extra 1000 steps a week until I can comfortably manage 8000 by the time I have to go back to work. 8000 is half what I would normally walk on a days work but I feel like is the minimum I would need to be able to start my phased return as I cant do my job sitting down.
I'd be really happy to chat with you about your recovery and how you're feeling either on here or by private message. Please know you are not alone :-)
All the best x